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My husband of a couple of years has developed an ultimately too comfortable rapport with me and feels at ease to share his porn collection and include me in what I believe is a borderline addiction. At first I tried to be a "cool wife" but it seems that permissive attitude has backfired because porn has taken a front seat in our intimate life. How can I change this? 

I am sorry to hear about this difficult situation. Before you approach your husband, you must consider what about his porn watching is bothering you so much. Has his interest in you waned? Do you feel replaced by a porn star? Has his sexual appetite become something that you are no longer comfortable with? You will have to raise these points in your discussion but before you do, let him set the tone. Ask him what it is about porn that he enjoys so much. Is it something lacking in your relationship? Can you both put forth an honest effort to eliminate porn?  

Together you need to determine if your husband is truly suffering from porn addiction or if he just has an exaggerated sexual appetite. If it's the former, it should be treated like any addiction. Your first step is to identify this. Project Know offers some important information. Afterwards, it is advisable you seek out a qualified counselor or psychologist to ease your husband out of his addiction and guide you both back to a happy and healthy marriage.

Addiction of any kind is serious. Please contact a mental healthcare professional if you or someone you know may be suffering from it. Montreal singles and Montreal couples, please consult this list . New York City Singles and NYC couples, please consult this list.  Miami singles and Miami couples, please consult this list. 

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